tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2785887441872369030.post7329151714656565840..comments2024-03-29T00:17:02.771-07:00Comments on Carlee McDot: Natural ProgressionCarlee McDothttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00529243020413430276noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2785887441872369030.post-22808227003784391522017-05-24T13:55:19.298-07:002017-05-24T13:55:19.298-07:00So glad you talked about this. J and I also decide...So glad you talked about this. J and I also decided to not have kids and we didn't come to that conclusion lightly either. It's also something we don't have to discuss with random people, so I'd appreciate if people would just stop to be nosy or push their cookie-cutter idea of a 'perfect' marriage/life on everyone else. <br /><br />There are many different reasons why people don't have kids and the least of them are because they're 'selfish'.... Sanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10196296268895103846noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2785887441872369030.post-70548644235203253942017-05-20T15:42:07.637-07:002017-05-20T15:42:07.637-07:00Thank you for this. Our situation was a bit differ...Thank you for this. Our situation was a bit different -we cannot have children, but chose to end the infertility workup after minimal intervention / investigation, as we realized that no kids was actually the right choice for us. That was ... huh. Nearly 9 years ago now, and I don't regret it at all. While HOW we got to this point wasn't necessarily the way I would have chosen, WHERE we are is exactly right for us. You. Do. You. And no, no one should ever, ever ask about life changes. Why do people think it's their business to do so??? Anyway. Love this. Thank you for this. Annenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2785887441872369030.post-29868403966982673642017-05-18T05:51:52.615-07:002017-05-18T05:51:52.615-07:00I am behind on reading the blog. But I loved your ...I am behind on reading the blog. But I loved your last thought regarding children. It really hit home with me and you said it wonderfully! :) Chelsea B.https://www.blogger.com/profile/01262673435638182759noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2785887441872369030.post-53279659487828981912017-05-17T10:59:22.656-07:002017-05-17T10:59:22.656-07:00I agree. I'm not sure I want kids. I won't...I agree. I'm not sure I want kids. I won't rule things out but agree, my life my business. Apparently my friends with a kid then get asked if/when they're having more so it never ends! Lauren https://www.blogger.com/profile/17590745601392215809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2785887441872369030.post-88723870383216365772017-05-14T16:22:26.382-07:002017-05-14T16:22:26.382-07:00I find it a little presumptuous that people ask th...I find it a little presumptuous that people ask that sort of question when frankly it is none of their business. My best friend chose to not have children over 30 years ago and you can only imagine the response she got at that time. I applaud you for making a choice that is right for you and your husband. Too many people have children without much thought. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2785887441872369030.post-34533989274177308412017-05-13T14:01:50.110-07:002017-05-13T14:01:50.110-07:00I already loved you and your blog but this post ju...I already loved you and your blog but this post just made it even more awesome. I am 35 and I don't want kids and trying to get people to stop arguing with me about it has been a pain (to say the least) thanks for much for posting this and keep having a blast with the hubs and Walt Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08070390469950744820noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2785887441872369030.post-68698449814996920762017-05-12T06:15:25.810-07:002017-05-12T06:15:25.810-07:00I'm with littlebeastling.com on your life, you...I'm with littlebeastling.com on your life, your rules. So many people out there seem to push what they feel is the "correct" way to live life on others. It seems like those who don't get married or those who choose to not have kids get the biggest backlash and I don't get it. Life is not about a set plan and everyone is different. I just want to see others happy in life with whatever their situation is. <br /><br />And no matter what you choose, it's always a when are you going to do whatever they feel is next question. And some people get so fired up, too, but they have to realize that my life isn't their life to live. My husband and I decided one child was enough for us, but I have had so many people over the years insisting that we will regret it. She's six and a half now and there is no regret. <br /><br />I look forward to reading your continued adventures, whatever they may be. From what I know about you, you are a sweet and happy person. And sweet and happy are two great ways to describe the life you live. Reca @ Gator Girl Runshttp://gatorgirlruns.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2785887441872369030.post-24270414607350793382017-05-11T20:24:19.149-07:002017-05-11T20:24:19.149-07:00Absolutely brilliant. Thank you for having the rea...Absolutely brilliant. Thank you for having the real conversation that so many of us out there can struggle to attempt. The man and I are in the exact same boat, both in our mid-thirties and we intentionally decided children weren't on our path. Our life adventures and dreams just don't include little ones running around. Ironically the most supportive people in our situation are our parents. They stick up for us to nudging family members and are proud to be have future grand-dogs/cats/goats/pigs/horses (we want a farm soon)! They are proud of us deciding what is best for us and our life together. <br /><br />You are truly an inspiration! You, Ryan and Walt are the greatest example of happy and adventurous! Never change who you are and the incredible nature of your souls! Marcia Vasquezhttps://www.instagram.com/toocuterunner/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2785887441872369030.post-62037732386319398912017-05-11T17:59:42.874-07:002017-05-11T17:59:42.874-07:00Thanks so much for this. I'm in the same boat ...Thanks so much for this. I'm in the same boat you are, and I appreciate hearing someone else speak to the struggle of owning your own decision.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02004156193233719943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2785887441872369030.post-35696648731593797062017-05-11T17:25:12.589-07:002017-05-11T17:25:12.589-07:00You and Ryan do you and Ryan perfectly! No need t...You and Ryan do you and Ryan perfectly! No need to change it!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10362770930907946857noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2785887441872369030.post-39765862229373652712017-05-11T17:21:55.203-07:002017-05-11T17:21:55.203-07:00I am right there with you sister! The Mr and I don...I am right there with you sister! The Mr and I don't want kids either. If I had a nickel for every time someone said "you'll change your mind" I'd be a millionaire. If I had one for every time someone said "you don't know what you're missing" I'd be a billionaire! You're right. I don't know what I'm missing. But I don't want to have kids just to find out. Kids are great, but not for us. It's sad that we still have to explain ourselves. Ashleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12677648733943317047noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2785887441872369030.post-76181246829797218532017-05-11T17:01:42.812-07:002017-05-11T17:01:42.812-07:00I am of the camp of "Your life, your rules.&q...I am of the camp of "Your life, your rules." You want to have one child? Have one child. You want to have sixteen furry children? Have sixteen furry children. You want to globe trot with your life partner, just the two of you? Globe trot on! Maybe it's just where I live, maybe it's just the luck of who I am surrounded by, but I know families of all kinds (with kids, step kids, yours-mine-ours, no kids, all the furry kids, adopted kids, adopted and birth kids, foster kids, never-going-anywhere-near-kids) and each one is wonderful. I feel very lucky that no one has ever pressured me into marriage or motherhood, or really, anything else. Thank you Mom and Dad for raising me to believe that my choices are my own. Lots of folks keep asking me, now that my daughter is nearly two, if we'll be having another one. I get a lot of "You'll want one" and a lot of "The one you've got is pretty great!" In my personal opinion, not knowing myself what my answer is is actually harder than hearing the unwanted opinions received. (Right now I'm in the one-and-done camp, but who knows what tomorrow holds.)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com